It’s a simple choice: will I believe the limiting thought, or believe in my ability to create?
Knowing that thoughts do NOT always reflect reality, will I choose destructive thoughts or constructive ones?
The diagram below maps out the process of encountering a thought (which happens hundreds of times per day). Oftentimes, our biggest problem is that we treat a self-critical, self-judging, self-limiting belief as the absolute truth of the situation.
But, what if it wasn’t? What would become possible? What new actions might you be open to taking?
Here are some reflection questions worth posing to yourself:
- Am I treating my thoughts as the gospel truth right now?
- What assumptions are underlying this thought? What does it assume to be true? And what is ACTUALLY true?
- Does this thought put me in a state of energy or exhaustion?
Byron Katie’s The Work is an amazing tool for distinguishing true thoughts from fantastical ones. The four, fundamental questions to ask about a limiting thought are:
- Is it true?
- Can I absolutely know that it’s true?
- How do I react when I believe that thought?
- Who would I be without that thought?
Her Judge Your Neighbor worksheet is available here.
Here’s a simple exercise for challenging those pesky, recurring thoughts:
- Set out 10 minutes in the morning
- Notice a thought about the day ahead of you. For example, “Today already sucks.” Or “Ugh, I’m so bad at making money.”
- Ask yourself the 4 questions above from The Work
- Think of ONE action you could take that would challenge the belief. How would you act if today didn’t suck? How would you act if you were already awesome at making money?
- Now fry up those eggs and get going on taking that action!